SINGLE!!! .. umm why you ask?
Great personality, attractive, head on straight, so why are you single?
We'll ladies there could be many reasons to this. Are you too whinny, needy, greedy, jealous, careless, snoopy, have an effd-up attitude, not appreciative, not exciting in the bedroom, or confident enough? The list can go on & on...
BUT I've noticed a big one with a lot of woman in today's society. True: According to statistics, woman are becoming more successful then men.
With that said, before the man was "the man", and a woman was the woman. He brought home the bacon, and the woman made it.
But now that women are taking over that "bringing home the bacon" bit, our roles have been switched without it setting in our minds maybe? Successful women not only want there man to be the "Man"..the handyman the lover boy the etc.100+ roles, but also woman want there man to be MORE successful then them. "He can't just have a regular job, I want him to be a humanitarian and philanthropist!" (sarcasm, but girls do say that.)
But since in a lot of cases that isn't really whats going down,
Is it possible that you might have your standards set a bit to high and you might be just a little judgmental?
You want your man to be like A. he must also be B. Oh, oh, and he must have C.!! Sounds like you?
We'll that right there, just might be a little issue towards your situation. Why is it that when I hear females (sometimes including myself) talk about men, we sound like we're looking to buy a new trained puppy or something? Like "A good man will do this, and a good man will do that, and have this and be that, and he'll always pee on the newspaper etc.." o.O
Who are we to title someone and judge a man so quickly by only what we see on the outside, & his first visible characteristics?
I kind of feel like in this day and age we have skipped out on the whole "getting to know each other" phase. Everyone has a "reputation", & I think these days people feed into that waaay to heavy instead of getting to know a person for who they are, most importantly, for who they are to YOU.
Just because he failed with xo & xo, doesn't mean the same will happen with you two & just because he's not in a certain career, shouldn't be the end of the road for you two. The chemistry could be magic! So what, he made a few mistakes in the past, If everything is peaches and cream between you two, then who the he** cares what others think! Now don't get me wrong, don't be a blind bat either, you definitely want to pay attention to some "signs & says" (if 100 people are saying don't go left, its bad, then you might want to not go left ok *_*) just don't completely go off of what a few people say, take a look at the situation for yourself and decide on how you feel about it without including outside opinions and suggestions.
At the end of the day, do whatever makes YOU happy! (as long as it's legal & doesn't involve harming others lol)
Just my thought of the day ♥
Monday, September 27, 2010
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Good Article D'jai. I agree that "expectations" are sometimes over the top when we as women say what kind of "Man" we want. We as women should focus on genuine qualities like kindness, honesty, hard working- even if he is not a CEO or millionaire. Relationships have become more about "what you can do for me" as opposed to how you treat me, love me, if you have goals and dreams and are reaching towards them. Either way Love is so complicated-lol
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heartafloat
Great points D'jai. The fact that women are becoming more successful than men, the fact that women mature faster than men (age does NOT equal maturity), among other factors, I think there's going to be an increasing amount of successful single women.
ReplyDeleteMales also have too many options. Pussy may rule the world but now there is so much of it and so many ways to get it.
Society is such a huge factor is all of this, the main factor really, and I don't see the trend changing.
There ARE great women and men out there few and far in between and all you really can do (males and females) is work on yourself in the meanwhile as a person and not just sit there and wait. Or worse, settle...
single iz a understatement 4 idk who i wanna b wit nowadays, but the media dictates relationship expectations now sadly. Your right about the sudden trend of black women being more successful...I've seen it increasing the last couple years myself as a man. As far as getting to know 1 another 1st I feel like social networks have taken the "approach factor" away from people( we merely lusting over the net now) Its no way u can genuinely find "love" on FB or twitter(maybe) The word is loose terminology to me.
ReplyDeleteTrue stuff D! Now a days woman are so used to being "ms. independent" and think that if a guy isn't a "philanthropist" (LOL) and doesn't make x amount of money that he wouldn't be able to take "care" of her. As women we are so used to having to wear the pants, when a good guy does come around we don't know how to put our skirt back on. LOL.
ReplyDeleteDespite the fact that yes, we might be more successful at the time, we are there to build our guys up and push them to be that humanitarian and philanthropist. haha.
Some women are single because they won't open their eyes to see the potential and possibilities dude might have. There are good guys out there, but if you want to have a good guy, you have to be a good woman first. so i'm single to prepare myself for my good thing! ;-)
great post, as usual!
Thank ya'll sooo much for the comments & ♥... keith & il8on I deff see ya'll point, heartafloat I also see where you're coming from, it has become "what can u do" factor.. & GEEdotMichelle awesome view! Have we really lost vision of the potential, seems like lot's are searching for the already "there".
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go head Dame!!! you are so aware and concious of things in society while still being an amazing multi talented role model and i aprreciate your blogs alot!!
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