Flirting: is it ok to do it....when you're already in a relationship?

So I was snooping around twitter today and noticed a convo going on about flirting, and if it's ok to do while in a relationship.

I'm honestly torn with this, just because flirting can definitely start off as something innocent but lead into mess.

I get the fact that guys do it sometimes just to see if they still "got it". Ladies, let me elaborate, (dudes, if you believe that I'm wrong on this, please feel free to correct my statement), according to what I hear, if you're in a relationship, a happy one at that, sometimes your guy might bump into a girl somewhere and partake in a little flirting, & it doesn't mean that he isn't happy or satisfied with what he has at home, but the point being that he has you, at home, you're already his, therefor the "chase" factor is gone, so occasionally he might do a little flirting here and there to:


     1.   See if he still can still pull "them"

     2.   It boost's his ego

     3.   Just because he thinks it's fun (new exciting thing)

Since he already has you, I believe that possibly majority of the time he might just want to know if that random pretty chick will let him smash. Not saying that he will go for the goal, but he just wants to know if he could.

The only thing that I think is crazy about this particular scenario, is that there's always a double edged sword situation when the tables are turned. Maybe a lot of girls wouldn't care so much about little stuff like this, if when the female did it wouldn't turn into "world war III / the end of the world"

#JustSaying , maybe since guys want this "new generation" type of woman, some of the old "rules" that stick & still apply to women today, shouldn't. What I mean is, Girl Say's: "Hey, as long as you're cool with me doing, whatever you do, & it doesn't bother you, then *shrugs*" Guy Say's: "aiight cool" VS him saying "hell naw! I'm the man, it's okay for me to do that!" See the diff?

Treat others how you want to be treated.

Now guy's, if you know that your girl is 100% not cool with you flirting with other girls, then maybe it'd be best if you respected her wishes & didn't do so..But, if she doesn't mind, & it's innocent (<--keyword), then by all means, pat yourself on the back.

I personally roll with the "as long as w/e you do, I can do, then we cool" lol

Antithetically, different people have there own ways & customs on how they work in relationships.

Moral of the story; whatever the both of you are comfortable with, & as long as you're both happy, at the end of the day, that's all that really matters.

Just my thought of the day ♥